You Don’t Need to Conform to Any Box
August 24, 2021

You Don’t Need to Conform to Any Box


You Don’t Need to Conform to Any Box(Jess Guilbeaux)

I don't know about you, but I love a good transformation story. And this week's guest is a perfect example of that. Jess Guilbeaux was a former guest on the insanely popular Netflix show Queer Eye with the Fab Five. She was on season three, episode five. So be sure to hop on Netflix and check it out. She will share her emotional transformation journey and the lessons she's learned, and what she's doing now.

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Jess’s appearance on Queer Eye [2:02]

Jess’s background [4:42]

It was definitely the bootcamp experience [8:18]

You don’t need to conform to any box [9:45]

Embrace your femininity [11:29]

I never wanted to learn about my hair [12:55]

Jess’s first photoshoot [16:08]

Your dreams are not impossible [18:24]

Organizations that important to Jess [22:02]

Start investing in yourself [24:05]



I knew how my family felt about gay people and homosexuality, but I thought that I was the exception.

 As a person who kind of gave up on the idea of family, my chosen family is my foundation. They're everything to me.

 I've learned that you don't need to conform to any box to appear a certain way to people. I am gay, and there's no certain way that I can dress that will change that.

I felt like I couldn't be dressed very feminine for a while because I didn't want people to assume that I was straight. But now I've learned to embrace all different parts of me.

I never wanted to learn about my hair because I didn't like it. I grew up being bullied for my hair, which turned into an overall hate for black hair and my hair in general. 

I thought there was no way that a black, gay woman could be a video game designer. But I am chasing it. I will do it. I wrote it down in my journal. I will work in video games one day.

Never give up on yourself. It's so easy to count yourself out before you even begin. What you do may have an impact, and that should be enough to dive in, do it and never stop. 

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